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Thursday, October 18, 2007 Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.
-Mark Twain
What will it take to build effective relationships? Two things: being a quality person and inviting quality people into your life. It's a two-way street. So what makes a quality person, and how will you recognize them in a relationship with you? Quality people always have a positive influence on your life. You will always see that your life is better because they are part of it. They stand beside you to celebrate your great victories, and console you during times of loss. High quality relationships are far different from fair weather relationships: they stick through the good times and the bad.
How do you decide who to allow into your life? How do you determine who qualifies for your time? This will depend upon your defination of a great relationship. What are your standards? To what standard do you hold the people around you? Do you uphold the same standards that you expect of others? Do you expect people to be uplifting, flexible and considerate of your feeling, but do not feel that you need to offer those qualities in return?
Think again. Something I've learned over and over again, if you treat people badly, expect the good ones to drift, if not run away. And if people treat you badly, they should expect (and you should show them) that you won't tolerate anything but the highest standards in relationships. Something I've always believed in after all the many years of insanity. Insanity of being used and abused by people who were good at manipulation and deception, but my weak self, feelings of a worthless self led me to years of hosotile relationships with people who, well, owned me.
But slowly I've adapted a whole new way of living, self-respect, and it's when I enforced those standards once I learned what they were. I struggled to change it around, but I was sunk in. And through out the years I've learned more on what I really wanted from someone, but only if I was capable of providing; someone who's positive and respectful, picks me up when I am down, helps me see the qualities in myself, catches me when I do things right, makes others needs a priority, believes in me, and makes me know without qualification that I am a better person because of the relationship.
Perhaps what I am seeking and havn't yet found is a relationship I've never experienced before, something new and rejuvenating and re-engenerizing. You know when a relationship is at best? When it brings positive blessings into your life.
Here's an example; When Henry Ford was trying to build his company, he faced a serious challenge in the beginning days he had designed his revolutionary engine (at the time), but id not have the money to builda prototype. He was desperately trying to figure out how to raise the $600 for the blacksmith ot create the prototype of his engine block. Well, suddenly his wife sat up in bed and suggested that they could cash in their life insurance to get the $600. She supported him. She believed in him. His successes would be their successes; her focus was to help him discover a solution.
This is very much like the story of Mexico's ex-president Vincente Fox. Sadly, I knew little about them both before I attended a convention they were speakers at, their story was inspiring. She was a blessing in his life which helped his career as the president of Mexico. The best people will encourage you during challenging moments, and your success is a priority them.
I've met quite few couples like the example's I've mentioned above. They come in all walks of life. I wish some other couple's I know had the same blessing. I can't speak for myself, because I'm still single. But I know what I am looking for.